PhotoshopCC 2018 when I have direct select tool and I am trying to drag layers I have selected it jumps to a different layer and drags that instead, so I am having to lock my other layer so it doesn't keep dragging the wrong one. Super frustrating
> I have direct select tool and I am trying to drag layers I have selected it jumps to a different layer and drags that instead,>
Okay, I'm going to assume you mean the Move tool, since the Direct Selection tool is used to select anchor points and reshape vector shapes and paths. If my assumption is right and it is the Move tool, you can disable Auto select Layer/Group in the Options bar and then either right-click over your document and select the layer you wish to move, or you can target it in the Layers panel.
Some layers, such as an adjustment layer with a mask, when placed above the layers you want to select will always get selected instead of the layer you see. Or a layer might have a shadow you're selecting over another object, and you don't see that. That's why either locking those layers down or disabling Auto Select will help.
I hope this will make it a little less frustrating, but even with other apps that let you drill down, you have to hold modifier keys and click to tell the app that nope, not this object, or the next one, but the one beneath that—so these are ways to instruct PS not to decide for you. '-}