Lightroom: Problems and opening images up in Photoshop C5 from LR 3

help help light room is killing me...how I hate the catalog system...let me put it this way I was on location in france with my lap top..I uploaded the images to the computer with capture one..then when I got home I transferred them over to my hard drive and uploaded the images into light room...strange enough the images will not open in Photoshop from their raw setting, i have to transform them via a plugin to a tiff and then it will open up in Photoshop, if I put use light room settings it does not open up....so now I went onto an other hard drive with other images that had been imported and low and behold these images open directly into photo shop...now the night make with moving folders...dang it its all so long to explain is there not phone support some where?..I have now moved the same bunch of images about 4000 of them three times back n forth and I cant get my library to up date properly, nor can I get them to open directly in Photoshop, I have lost two days of retouch work screwing around with light room and its driving me crazy.......help help help...I forgot to mention that I had two days to retouch all my images, they are due on monday...so much for spending time with my kids this weekend...